Bring God into Your Marriage

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Dear younger Self, 
I like your honest questions about bringing God into your marriage. I can't say that God will always make your circumstances physically easier, but He can help you to see the eternal nature of your relationship, and help your burdens to feel lighter. When God is in your marriage, you can get through the hardest times, thinking of your husband's struggles, the burdens he carries. I know it's so hard to see past your own struggles, but as you bring God closer in your marriage by asking for His help, He will show you a picture of Dan you won't see any other way. You'll see him through God's lens. You'll forgive more freely, give more abundantly, and try to understand where he is coming from when he struggles to find the words to express himself honestly. 
There will come a time when you will cry out to God, asking, "Why is Dan such a big jerk!? Please help him to learn how to stop being so rude, and angry and, and...." Then the Lord will bring to your remembrance times or situations when you weren't so kind or loving or patient...and you'll be humbled. You'll remember that the only soul you are responsible to control is your own, and while you'll wail at the Lord to chastise your husband, you'll be reminded gently that you are also an imperfect beggar, dependent on the mercy of the Lord to forgive you. When the finger is so easy to point in your husband's direction, and all reasonable doubt is gone about who's to blame, find a quiet place to kneel and think of how you might petition the Lord to give you a new way to look at your husband; a new, Christlike way. 

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